HAPPY MAY!!!! *insert NSync/Justin Timblerlake meme here* So many things happening this month! Mother’s Day, Delivery Day, Birthdays, End of the School Year! Ah! Last month, I was in a rut – I finished grad school and then took a break and relaxed for a few days. A few days turned into a few weeks, and Justine suddenly turned into her couch. I published my April Goals in hopes of motivating me to stick to them and to keep myself accountable for getting stuff done. AND IT WORKED! I got everything accomplished in my April list!
So here I am again in May, publishing my goals for this month:
Eat clean. I’ll be delivering my 3rd son May 16th via scheduled C Section. I plan on nursing my boy for as long as possible. The problem is that the hunger of a nursing mom is unlike any other. I would literally eat my full meals of breakfast, lunch, and dinner, with snacks in between. But instead of snacks in between meals, I ate full meals – I’m talking burgers, fries, wings, pizza - naturally, I blew up and didn’t have the energy to keep up with a toddler and a newborn. Knowing that I'll be eating as much as I did before, but making the choices clean and healthy will help keep my energy level up so I can take care of a preschooler, toddler, and newborn. Looooord help me.
Get moving. I struggled with baby blues (it wasn't full on PostPartum Depression, but it teetered) after my 2nd son was born. I found that short walks around the neighborhood with the baby in the stroller or the baby in a carrier was extremely mood boosting and beneficial. Natural sunlight and fresh air is the best remedy sometimes.
Wear make up more often. So I don’t know if there are any other women out there that buy a ton of make up and just let it sit there? I’m totally guilty of this! I get a make up haul with every intention of using it, then it just sits on my counter, untouched. I don’t know why – maybe it’s too beautiful for me to ruin? Maybe I’m too lazy to put make up on daily, but I know that whenever I do wear make up I feel better about myself AND I’m more productive.
I’m in the stage of pregnancy where my body is already pregnant enough and my face wants to join the party. Pregnant Face. Have you heard of it? Well it’s a phenomenon that happens in your last few weeks of pregnancy, when your nose gets so huge that it melts into your face, and your chin gets so large its almost impossible for you to look down because there is a LARGE CHIN in the way of your actual chin. Yes, double chin.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I’m sometimes too proud for my own good. I feel like I’ll be able to handle anything and everything that life hands me – I’ve been doing a pretty good job of it so far, but I sacrifice sleep, time with my kids and family, or my well-being. Asking help from my husband, my parents, friends that live close by, or even my oldest son will help save my sanity while we all adjust to the new normal.
CALM DOWN – don’t give into the pressure. I’m a very intense person, I admit! If I want to eat something, I’ll clean the plate. If I need to get the kids some new shorts, I buy like five pairs of shorts. If I want to go to the gym, I want to lift all the weights. You get the idea. So adjusting to the new normal with 3 kids and moving states in a few months will be interesting – to say the least. Understanding that my body, life, and mind changed drastically in the last 10 months will keep everything in perspective. Motherhood makes you feel pressure – pressure of the baby pushing your insides around making you uncomfortable, pressure on yourself to be the best mom possible, pressure from the public to be a certain way… WHATEVER! One day at a time and it will all be okay. You’re not a bad mom if you have to supplement with formula, you’re not a lazy mom if you’re not back in your prepregnancy clothes after two weeks, you’re not a neglectful wife if you ask your husband to pick up food for the family, you’re not a neglectful mom if you have Netflix on for a few more episodes while you get a nap in. Just remember – mom or not, whatever season your life is in at the moment: Calm Down, don’t give into the pressure. One day at a time and it will be okay!
Do we have the same goals? Share some of your goals with me! I’d love to read them!