So a lot of my friends are pregnant or just had a baby. Yay! I was one of the first of my friends to have kids, which is why I started a blog because a lot of them are asking for advice! When my husband and I went home for the holidays, I got to meet all of the babies and catch up with my friends -- both friends that are parents and friends that are not. Then we got to talking about what makes parents “cool” and how to be a “cool parent” in this day and age.
The problem with cool parents is that, their kids don't know how cool they are! I didn’t appreciate how cool my parents were growing up until I was a parent myself. Growing up, I didn’t think my parents were cool at. all. But honestly, they really didn’t care what I thought of them as long as I listened to them. The cycle of childhood normally goes as follows: kid loves you and doesn’t want to leave your side, kids tolerate you, kids are embarrassed of you, kid leaves, kid loves you again and doesn’t stop bothering you.
Parents nowadays are killing the game with their viral texts and matching outfits – Moms with their smokey eye and midi dresses with something tied around their waist. Dads with their cut offs, immaculate sneakers, and dapper haircuts. But let’s be real, we all know you hang out at home with fuzzy teeth, messy hair, and sweats. We all do it. All of us.
Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, only YOU determine how cool of a parent you are. You don’t need recognition from your kids, your friends, or followers on social media. You might need some reassurance from your husband at 8:30pm on a Saturday night while you two are getting ready to go to sleep...
Wife: “hey, am I still cool?”
Husband: “of course, babe.”
(PS – this is totally a conversation my husband and I had, like, yesterday).
I wish I had the time to put on make up every day. I wish I had the money to get a new wardrobe. I wish I had the time and energy to keep up with the trends, have a sick bod to wear all these cute clothes, or to even keep a clean house for that matter. I wish I were cool and energetic enough to go to the bar or to even stay up past 10pm.
I wish my kids would skip the part where they tolerate their parents and love their friends more than me and just appreciate how cool of a mom and dad they have already. I wish they would not ask to change the song when some good 90s R&B is playing in the car--- calling our music weird. Ugh. I wish they would appreciate how clever our jokes are! You see, smokey eye and matte lip or not, Starbucks and ironic t-shirts or not, undercut and expensive sneakers or not, hot bod or not, minivan or not – your children will still be embarrassed of you! It’s inevitable.
lol the kids faces in this picture.
So moms and dads with young kids, relish in the fact that you don’t have to do much for your kid to think your cool. My 4-year-old thinks I’m cool when I roar at him. Moms and dads of teens and tweens, sorry. Don’t worry though the light flickering ever so faintly is at the end of the tunnel! Moms and dads of college students and parents – you’re so lucky. You’re like, the coolest parents ever.
And if any of you parents need recognition, just know that I think you’re cool, even if your kid doesn’t.